Men and Lies

Are you the type of man who when you first talk to a woman, you try to prove how big of a stud you are?  Or maybe you aren't but at some stage you must have boasted about something that isn't the truth. Women hate that, they really do. Nobody likes a man who brags but can't perform! In general, most women don't like men who brag. They hate it because most of it are lies. You lie to them and tell them you work in a big office building, but forget to tell them you are the clerk or even the cleaner. You say you have a huge penis, maybe that is because you figure that they won't actually see it.

You lie to them about how much money you have in the bank, but by the time you pay your child support you end up eating rice and beans for every meal.

Women don't want a man that lies to them. They want someone who is honest, warts and all. Well, that is a figure of speech, they don't want a man with warts. I think you get what I am saying.

One lie builds up to many lies. It isn't good to lie to a woman as soon as the relationship takes ground. It makes no sense, you can't keep up with all the lies. She will find out some day. She will find out that the car you pick her up in every Friday on your dates, is your buddies car and not yours.

It is important that in the blooming stages of a relationship that the foundation is good. I think of it like this. A mushroom needs sterile fertile ground to grow. If the ground is polluted, the mushroom won't grow. Love is a lot like that mushroom.

If you start a relationship based on lies, it will crumble down. Let me give you another example. If you build a house and the foundation isn't strong, the house will become tilted and will sink in. The same is true with a relationship.

If you feel that it is only a one night stand, lie through your teeth if you need to. Chances are she already has made up her mind before she left the house that she wanted to get laid. So, what does either of you have to loose? You both are looking for sex, as long as sex is the outcome, everyone is happy. Of course, don't lie and tell you are clean if you aren't. That is plainly wrong.

I was once in a relationship that was built on nothing but lies. We both lied to each other like crazy. I told her I was rich and she told me she was a stripper. Neither of them were true. She lied and told me that she had sex with tons of women, ended up none of that was true. She made the story up about the lesbianism to turn me on. To try to reel me in.
I told her that I had a great job and I was making tons of money. I wasn't making shit for money, I just had a nice saving built up. She told me things so that I would feel sorry for her. She would tell me that she had nothing to eat in her house, all the while she was gaining weight like crazy.

Everything went smoothly in the relationship. The sex was great. Wait, the sex was fantastic. She was so good in bed that I couldn't believe it. She rocked my world every time. It was kind of hard waking up next to a woman that I knew the whole relationship was based on lies. The thing was, the sex was so good, that I didn't care.

One day it all went to hell. It happened faster than I could think. All of her and my lies built up to a brick wall of frustration. I was out of the relationship in a matter of no time. I couldn't believe how fast it ended.

What happened was, my feelings were hurt. My whole life had been crushed. I actually was dumb enough to fall in love with this woman. I'm not sure how that happened, but maybe because the sex was so great. I don't know.

I spent years and years with a broken heart because of this. Now, I don't feel this way. I know that since everything was based on lies, that the relationship couldn't have went anywhere. But, for years I felt like shit. I really did. It ruined my life and I couldn't understand why.

If this story isn't enough to make you wash your mouth out with soap every time you lie to a woman, I don't know what will. You have to keep in mind the long term effects of your lies. She will see them eventually. She will see that you don't have all that money that you claim you have. She will see that your penis is small compared to how you boast about it. She will see that you don't have a clue in this world how the real world revolves. She will only see your lies.

This isn't a good idea. If you feel like you have to lie to get a woman, she isn't worth having. If you have to be anyone except yourself, then you need to look for a woman that you can be. All it will do is cause you problems later on in the relationship.

At the end of it, think of it like this... If you have to lie, then there is a problem with the relationship. Say, you have to lie about how much money you make. Chances are this woman is a gold digger and she is worthless. All she will do is take all of your money and run. She will run when she realizes that you don't have any money to take. 

Relationship if long term cannot be based on lies.